“Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters
of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you and though they are with you
yet they belong not to you.’
Start with the end in mind –
What kind of adult do you want your child to grow up to be?
Picture them now as a young man or woman – what qualities and skills do you want them to have?
What will you need to teach them so they will be capable of stepping into adulthood?
If you are co-parenting get on the same side with each other, value each others strengths and remind each other of the values you want to model as these are what your child will learn. Speaking respectfully to each other and your child now, will have a pay off in the teenage years!
I heard a researcher on the radio say, that although baby orang-utans are capable of crying, he has never seen or heard one cry. It turns out that orang-utans are such proactive mothers they sense their baby’s needs before they get a chance to cry.
A crying baby is never being naughty! They may be hungry, tired, thirsty, have wind or pain, are too hot or cold, have a wet or dirty nappy or are feeling unwell.
The first drive with your baby will be a heightened experience now you are travelling with such precious cargo and everyone on the road seems to be driving far too fast, completely unaware that your vehicle contains… new life.